By Shelle Frelo
Trust is a big issue for many women because of the hurts they have experienced in the past. Nowhere is lack of trust more destructive than in the marital bond. We will use the example of marriage because many aspects of the marital relationship are the same in the relationship of the Christian and Christ.
Before we were married we lived as a single individual making decisions that only affected you and your world. After we were married everything had to be done keeping in mind what was best for the relationship, how things would affect the two of you as a whole. Basically you became one with your spouse because of the vow/the promise you made to one another. As in the marital relationship before we came to except Christ as our Lord and Savior we were living as one. However once we accepted the vow/the promise of Salvation; and as in the marital relationship when doubt arises or trust is an issue in the relationship intimacy deteriorates.
Think of this oh too familiar scenario: A typical husband and wife, the wife feels that her husband has been unfaithful to the marriage. She becomes agitated easily, suspicious, unwilling to completely allow him to lead her. As this doubt in the marital promise of loyalty to each other begins to fester there becomes friction in the relationship. Where there was joy it is now doubt and mistrust. Where there was a confidence in the relationship there is a hidden overlaying haze that keeps her from committing completely to her husband.
This type of scenario is often played out in the relationship between the Christian and God. Because of situations, circumstances, or even listening to other people, we call into question the promise of Salvation. The promise that God said He will always be there and we are always His. Doubt in the promise of God to the believer is one of our main reasons for a lack of intimacy in the relationship between the Christian and Christ. Full acceptance of the promise of Christ is to know that trust and faith is not something that we in and of ourselves are capable of having. It is understanding that the Holy Spirit abiding in us that allows us to have the trust and belief in the promise of God.
“That is why he is the one who mediates the new covenant between God and people, so that all who are invited can receive the eternal inheritance God has promised them. For Christ died to set them free from the penalty of the sins they had committed under that first covenant.”
– Hebrews 9: 12-15 – New Living Translation
Shellē Frelo is Founder and President of Just For Us Ministries. JFUM is a non-denominational ministry for women and youth based in Kansas City, Mo. Her ministry offers, discipleship, youth enrichment, community outreaches, and events.
She has written several bible study curriculum for women and youth, devotionals, books on entrepreneurship and women’s ministries, parenting articles, and Christian articles. She has worked in the retail industry as a top level executive, and in education as a behavior interventionist. She has appeared on TBN, spoken at various events, churches, retreats, businesses, and corporate events.