By Shelle Frelo

Prayer, is often thought to be this ritualistic thing that Christians do in order to talk with God and get what they want.


This could not be further from the truth. Prayer is actually a most intimate conversation between the Christian and God. It allows Christians to get focused on matters of faith, life, hope, repentance, and praise.


An intimate prayer life consist of developing an understanding that merely praying or the day to day situations and circumstances is not enough, growing/maturing in our walk with Christ through prayer and a changing of character is what our prayer life needs to consist of. This gives the believer a deeper, intimate relationship with God, because they are seeking His will for their lives.


“Teach me to do your will, for you are my God. May your gracious Spirit lead me forward on a firm footing.” Psalms 143:10 – New Living Translation


Intimacy with Christ through prayer is knowing that God wants to be there for us when we are in difficulty.


“Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about what happens to you.” – Psalms 143:10 – New Living Translation


But, He also wants us to realize that prayer is a means of confession and renewal of our spirit. Developing an intimate prayer life when praying for ourselves and others is understanding that the big picture is “Salvation”.


“I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the wonderful future He has promised to those He called. I want you to realize what a rich and glorious inheritance He has given to His people.” – Ephesians 1:18-

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We also want to accept the full power of an intimate prayer life with Christ.


“Elijah was as human as we are, and yet when he prayed earnestly that no rain would fall, none fell for the next three and a half years! Then he prayed for rain, and down it poured. The grass turned green, and the crops began to grow again.” -James 5: 17-18- New Living Translation


Elijah was a man who understood the power of an intimate prayer life. He understood that God wants us to seek Him first and all other things will be added unto to us. Now I’m sure you’ve heard some version of this at some time or another. In simple terms God knows what we want, He understands our needs. Prayer is designed for the Christian’s benefit not God’s. Sincere, spiritually naked prayer to God brings us closer to Him through confession of our sins and asking for righteous repentance in our hearts. But


confidence in knowing that we can depend on God to supply our needs comes from asking and receiving. Prayer strengthens our faith, it makes us confidant in the capabilities of Christ. This intern makes us bolder to give testimony about our faith.


Often it is only in despair that we turn to God in prayer. Intimacy in prayer means turning to God before we make our choices, in the midst of temptation, while we are growing in our faith.


“Then Saul said, “Let’s chase the Philistines all night and destroy every last one of them. “His men replied, “We’ll do whatever you think is best. “But the priest said, “Let’s ask God first.”- 1 Samuel 14:36- New Living Translation


The Priest was right, when he urged the men to go to God first before proceeding. Asking God for guidence through the Holy Spirit, helps us to stay in line with God’s plan. Going to God before even the smallest decisions helps believers to acknowledge that weneed God’s guidance through the Holy Spirit. This enables believers to have even more intimacy with Christ because we begin to rely on His guidance through the Holy Spirit. We accept the role as protégé of God and Christ’s as mentor. Prayer is simply a conversation between the Christian and God. We can feel comfortable speaking to God about ALL AREAS of our life, no matter how sorted the details. An intimate prayer life is also the acceptance and practice of confession.


“If my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven.” – 2 Chronicles 7:14– New Living Translation


This scripture is most powerful because it cautions the believer to deal with those unresolved issues in their life first.


This scripture says volumes, it first let’s us know that we belong to God. We are His, to be loved by Him. We are His children, His people, His vessel’s. It let’s us know that we are to seek the things of God first (growth in the word and a heart that is willing to change for the Kingdom of God.). god answers prayers that is clear, however we are to be praying that God’s will becomes our will, that our prayers are geared to bring us closer to Him. Our prayers are answered according to the will of God.


“We can be confident that He will listen to us whenever we ask Him for anything in line with His Will. – 1 John 5:14– New Living Translation


This scripture establishes that we can’t just name it and claim it. We must also consider if it is part of the will of our heavenly father. Many times what we want for ourselves is not always what is best for us in the heavenly scheme of things.


About j4us.comWriter:

Shellē Frelo is Founder and President of Just For Us Ministries. JFUM is a non-denominational ministry for women and youth based in Kansas City, Mo. Her ministry offers, discipleship, youth enrichment, community outreaches, and events.

She has written several bible study curriculum for women and youth, devotionals, books on entrepreneurship and women’s ministries, parenting articles, and Christian articles. She has worked in the retail industry as a top level executive, and in education as a behavior interventionist. She has appeared on TBN, spoken at various events, churches, retreats, businesses, and corporate events.

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Shelle Frelo