Dear Ask-A-Sister:

I have a question about forgiveness. How do I forgive someone who deceived me, resolve feelings of betrayal within me.


Dear Forgiveness…

Forgiveness is hard to do no matter how large or small the problem. But it is necessary for the relationship and the person to heal. The difficulty comes in how to actually start the forgiveness process. And you will have to understand it is a process.

I always say one of the hardest things for me to do was to forgive the people who molested and abused me. So I will share with you my journey in hopes that it can help you as you embark on your process of forgiveness.

  1. Understand that you have a right to be angry

            Yes, when someone betrays, hurts, or takes advantage of us its natural to be angry and feel vengeful. 

“All day and all night your hand was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water on a sunny day until I finally admitted all my sins to you and stopped trying to hid them. I said to myself, I will confess them to the Lord. And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone” Psalm 32:4-5 In order to forgive yourself you first need to accept that you have knowingly and consistently sinned against God, when you accept this without excuse than you are able to start the process of repentance.



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